How to Beat the Loneliness of the Holidays

The holidays are supposed to be full of magic, laughter, family dinners, and cozy moments. But for so many women, this season can quietly bring feelings of loneliness, comparison, and sadness especially for those navigating singleness, distance from family, loss, or longing for something that hasn’t come yet.

Here are my three ways to navigate the lonely moments of the holidays:

1. Stay in the Word

This season is one of the most important times to be intentional about your relationship with God. Paul actually talks about the beauty of singleness in Scripture. He explains that when you’re not tied to the concerns of a spouse or family, you have a unique opportunity: more time to be fully devoted to the Lord. (1 Corinthians 7: 32- 35) A season of life where your heart, schedule, and energy can be directed toward knowing God more intimately.

One of the best ways to do that is by deepening your commitment to Scripture. Spend time in the Word every day, even if it’s small. This year, I’m reading The Dawning of Indestructible Joy by John Piper as a daily Advent devotional. If you’re looking for something structured to guide you through the season, I’d love for you to join me. It’s short, rich, and the perfect way to re-center your mind on Christ as Christmas approaches.

During this time of year, lots of voices get louder, culture, social media, family members, your own inner critic, but the voice we should be seeking most is God’s.

Devotional HERE

2. Focus on Your Friendships

Loneliness doesn’t always mean you have no one — sometimes it just means you haven’t reached out.

This season is a beautiful time to lean into the people God has placed in your life:

• Invite a friend for coffee

• Plan a lunch date

• Host a movie night

• Send handwritten Christmas cards

• Schedule a “holiday walk” at a pretty park

There are so many relationships that are waiting to be strengthened — sometimes all it takes is one text: “Hey, I’d love to see you. Want to do a mini Christmastown day together?”

And if you don’t have a big circle right now, that’s okay too. One meaningful friendship is worth more than a crowd.

Remember: you don’t need a romantic partner to have a full, rich, connected life.

Your friendships matter deeply — honor them.

3. Stay Busy

When your hands are busy, you're less likely to spiral.

Here are some holiday-vibe things to do to stay busy:

• Volunteer at a church or organization

• Start a festive workout or walking challenge

• Decorate your space beautifully

• Try holiday baking or crafting

• Start a Bible study or devotional plan

• Watch classic Christmas movies

• Work on a creative project or vision board for the new year

The holidays can stir up emotions we didn’t expect such as loneliness, longing, and questions we thought we had already settled. But they can also be a season of intentional growth, renewed faith, and sacred stillness if we choose to lean into what God is doing rather than what we feel we’re missing.